Hug More Interview Series – Željka Kurjački
She got our attention with one of her stories, yes you guessed it right, about the importance of hugs. But she kept our attention with the ever-present sincerity and pragmatism. She is a psychotherapist and her name is Željka.
WHY DO YOU LIKE HUGS?
Real, wholehearted hugs mean intimacy and closeness. Those hugs give us a chance to show someone that we love them, that we care, that we understand. They also give us a chance to receive someone's love.
WITH WHO DO YOU HUG THE MOST?
Most of my best and most sincere hugs are reserved for one extraordinary man.
IS THERE A ONE PARTICULAR HUG THAT YOU WOULD POINT OUT AS YOUR FAVOURITE?
I like firm, close hugs from people I love. Hugging can be very intimate. Weak, half hearted hugs represent a false intimacy. If we don't feel desire to hug someone wholeheartedly, then it's much better to give them cordial smile or firm handshake instead of hug. I also don't like to hug people I don't know well. If someone I don't know well initiates the hug, I won't refuse it, but I'll try it to last as short as possible and it won't be sincere.
IS THERE SOMEONE YOU OWE A HUG?
Many people I really want to hug are no longer alive. But I hugged them many times while they were. I don't have hugs that I didn't give. But there are hugs that I regret a bit, hugs that were not truly honest.
IF YOU COULD PICK ANYONE, WHO WOULD YOU HUG?
Haha. I think I would really like to hug one fictional character, an old school teacher from one of my favorite children's books. She is one of my inner mentors, I talk to her a lot in my head.
AND LASTLY, GIVE US ONE DAMN GOOD REASON WHY WE SHOULD ALL HUG MORE?
If the hug is real, it's close, your bodies touches, it lasts long and emphasizes closeness and intimacy. True hugs, just like true kisses or strong, comforting words, are impossible to forget. They empower you and comfort you every time you think of them.